“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord” is a well-known scripture taken from Proverbs 18 and verse 22.

What might be less well-known however, is ‘whom you marry is likely to be a representation of yourself’.

Think about that for a moment.

I want to mention Rupert and Carmel who celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary earlier this year.  They are happy and still in love!

I believe that single Christian men can learn a lot from Rupert. Rupert made the long trip to the UK in the 1950s. He worked hard and saved his money for 2 years so Carmel could travel by plane to join him. While it must have been tough being apart for 2 years, (Rupert didn’t even have a photo of Carmel and in those days there were no DMs!), he had his eyes on the prize – Carmel.

Christian single men, if you want a good thing from the Lord, here are 3 principles on finding a wife:

1. Be who God wants you to be

Rupert was a committed Christian before he married Carmel and still is.  His strong Christian faith and values have filtered into every area of his life. Rupert is kind, generous, keeps his word, is respectful and respected, shows gratitude, is considerate and has a great sense of humour!

2. Choose wisely

Rupert chose Carmel, not only because he was attracted to her: it was also her good character that he had observed over a period that made him fall in love with Carmel and adore her.

3.  Serve God and others

Rupert has always been active in the church, taking on various roles. He also reaches out to others and is a great encourager as shared by many of their friends and family at their zoom diamond wedding celebration earlier this year. Incidentally, Rupert likes to keep up with changes and has become an expert in using his mobile and zoom. He also fully supports single people using dating sites.  And how old is he? 86!

Christian men who desire a wife…trust God’s timing. He who finds a wife finds a good thing!



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